I Left My Checkbook At Home!!!

Ladies,

This story here may make the hairs on your neck stand up!!!

Jolene left her husband to move into a fabulous condo in downtown Charlotte. Herman and Jolene had been married for 14 years when one day Jolene woke up and realized that her marriage was not what she wanted it to be. Her husband had fallen into a daily routine of work, home, fifteen minutes of sex and off to bed. Everyday Jolene would try to give him little messages about needing more and everyday he would ignore them.

Herman thought that as long as he paid the mortgage on the 4000 square foot home with her Mercedes of choice in the driveway, then he was doing enough. What woman wouldn't be grateful for a husband that provides her with these luxuries. She was a very lucky woman. Her only job was to make sure that dinner was prepared and ready every night and that she pleased him when necessary.

Now, Jolene was a teacher in the local school system. Everyday she would show up to work in her designer goods, her Mercedes and expensive smelling perfume. She loved teaching. She loved helping little girls realize their dreams. However, there was a very lonely woman lying deep within. She had plenty of admirers. One of which, was the school security guard. He fancied her so much, he would occasionally leave flowers, cards and candy on her desk some mornings. She knew he lusted after her but in the back of her mind all she could think about was the income variations and the look of it all. How would it look for a woman of her caliber to date a security guard.

So, in a hasty mood one day, Jolene decided to step out on faith and tell Herman she no longer wanted to be in the marriage. She wanted to try a separation. She wasn't getting what she needed from Herman and that she just needed some time. She decided to do something different. She moved out and found a fabulous loft condo in downtown. It made her feel young and invigorating.

Then, as if luck would have it, she met Michael. Michael was a young principal. He was tall, masculine and fine. She took to Michael immediately. The best part was that he could handle himself in the bedroom exceedingly well. It was her pleasure to see him at the end of a workday, cook him a fabulous dinner and then suck him off properly.

The Catch!!!

Michael of course is married. After he leaves Jolene, he goes home to his wife every night. Jolene was fine with it initially.

Then, one month Jolene splurged to much and had a conference she needed to attend. She decided to try Michael's hand and see how much he was willing to give. After all she cooked and gave him good loving almost daily. So, her plan of attack would be the next day after they made love and she made sure that she went that extra mile while giving him head.

She got the answer that she wanted. Michael told her that he would bring her the money on the next day. Jolene was all giddy with excitement about how much he would give her and what she would do with the extra money. When the next day finally came, Michael came into the condo with a huge smile on his face. He was excited to see her and she was excited to see him. He hugged her and reached down in his pocket and pulled out a crisp one hundred dollar bill and handed it to Jolene.

Jolene gasped as she wondered was he joking. A hundred dollars? She asked him was that all? His response, "Baby, I left my checkbook at home!" She was leaving the next day and would not be able to see him before so she sucked it up (literally) and called it a night.

Three months have passed since then. She has asked Michael to help with her rent, car payment, groceries and personal items. He has only given her a few hundred dollars each time with the same excuse. "I left my checkbook home!" 

However, she has not altered her schedule, of giving him everything he wants. She still cooks for him and pleases him sexually whenever he wants.

The good news is that he has planned their first trip together. She is accompanying him on a weeks conference next month. I guess good things do come to some women.

Sasha Lior
The Sasha Chronicles
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Twitter: @sashalior

The Decisions She Made!!

How is it that in the beginning of a relationship a woman believes that she has met her solemate or someone that she can stand still with for as long as it exists, and then the next minute realize that she should have made a better choice. How many of us do this? Day in and day out I hear stories about making better choices.

I read an astrology book that said that people born on my day have a problems with letting the past be the past and remembering to look forward and accept your previous choices. I had to think about that for a moment. As I sat on the train the other day and ear hustled another great conversation between two friends, I realize that it is okay to live with the fact that I made certain decisions.

Now what??

Now it's time to make better decision. The old saying is "Patience is a Virtue"!!! I think that if we were to sit still longer and just be still, making a better choice might be clearer. In the course of a day I know that I have at least 1000 different thoughts. I think about stories, vacations, shoes, clothing, gossip and what is on my list for the day. And, those are just off the top of my mind currently. When do you have a moment to clear your mind and decide that this is the right decision for you?

The Right Decision

So, you made a decision that this is Mr. Right based off the fact that he is a good person. He smells good all the time. He can do the damn thing in the bedroom. He hangs around with the right crowd. He is very complimentary. He seems to have the right relationship with his family. Who wouldn't want this man?

And then you get deeper into the relationship and realize that there is more than meets the eye. The first thing is that you haven't actually seen him interact with his family. All you do is hear phone conversations and you listen to him explain all these situations about how he has to do everything for the family or else it would fade. He looks like the hero which makes for reason to get even deeper. Time passes and because you are a woman who has her own things going on, you realize that you and he only spend time together in certain places and certain times. (Your internal flag goes up but you still continue)

Months go by and then one day you decide that you want a more serious situation. You want the relationship to elevate to the next level. You want to be more involved in his life and then that moment of truth happens. He starts to respond in the opposite manner in which you thought he would. He starts to think of you as being clingy and to dependent. Then he hits that absolute no no and tells you that "you are starting to act regular" like all the other girls.

So what is your response. You go over and over your actions to figure out if you made the right move. Did you push to far? Are you really that girl?

Every woman has to make a decision as to whether or not he was her Mr. Right. And most likely in one lifetime, there are three Mr. Wrongs for every Mr. Right. Or who we think is going to be Mr. Right. So for now ladies let's not beat ourselves up for the decisions that we make or our friends make. Matters of the heart is no easy burden.

For those of you who have found their Mr. Right and have made that decision, congratulations. For those women who are still searching and have that decision to make, keep pushing forward and trust your instincts.


Special Thanks to all the women who allow me to ear hustle their conversations.

Sasha Lior
sashalior.blogspot.com

Dream On

I met a woman today who had no aspiration to make any more money than her current salary. I couldn’t believe it. I couldn’t comprehend it. I stood there looking at her waiting for more. I wanted her to say I am joking, I want so much more out of my life. But nothing, there was nothing. She just looked at me with that blank stare that makes you uncomfortable and so all you can do to break the ice is say something funny. “I went outside to shovel the snow the other day, fell backwards and came back inside. Suffice it to say, I was unsuccessful.” From that I turned around and walked back to my desk/office/cubicle.

I sat there wondering, how in the hell can you make $40,000 a year and be happy with that. Like what about the things that you want to do that require a little more? What about taking those yearly vacations with your lovie or your yearly girlfriend trip? What about just saying we are not going to cook tonight, let’s go out to dinner? I had to think back to previous conversations that we had. I then thought about her personality. She is always stressing out about not being able to buy anything new for herself or her home. She spends a lot of her time budgeting her money.

She has two young children. I asked her how often she took her children on vacation and she looked at me and said (very proudly I might add), they have been to Disney world and to Myrtle Beach. And again, as I stand here and wonder is that all, I realize that she is content. She has decided to be content with the fact that she earns just enough to stay above water, but not enough to really live life. What’s makes the story even more interesting is that her husband has been making the same amount of money for the last fifteen years. I guess the saying is true, “Birds of a feather flock together”.

I am left to wonder, “How many women live like this?” You mean to tell me that in this blue collar city I live in, people are so content to just keep their heads above water and not aspire to much more. How can a woman be content with that? How can you teach your children to be content with that? How can I even carry another conversation on with you knowing that this is your mentality? You mean you don’t fantasize about things you see in a magazine, or shoes you saw in a store window, or a dress you saw at a department store?

I can’t wrap my finger around it. I don’t even know if I can respect it. It is a hard pill for me to swallow. Every fiber in my being wants to grab her, hold her hostage and reprogram her brain into believing that she should want more. Mediocrity is soooooooooo overrated. I want her to attain a little more drive and go after more. But again, that would mean me dreaming for someone else.
I will dream big for her and hopefully one day (the near future I promise) she will look back at out short time together and realize she should dream big and dream more.

I will hold down dreaming for all of you who have given up and become content!!

S.L.

Sashalior.blogspot.com

P.S.

Before I posted this, I went back to have another conversation with this woman, only to find out that she does take a yearly girlfriend vacation to the same place every year. When I asked her why they don't deviate and try new islands, she says that the small island she visits is just enough for her comfort zone. (I may have a lot of work to do with this one!!)